http:\/\/www.quantumcreations.com.au\/the-path-of-dzar\/<\/a><\/p>\nIncreasing your self-awareness is about living authentically and overcoming your fears. These fears include the ones we are consciously aware of like the fear of spiders for example, and some that we are not aware of, but these are the fears that cause us to react and feel a certain way about any given circumstance.
\nThe circumstance may be a problem or it may be an opportunity, our underlying fears will determine which.<\/p>\n
Increasing your self-awareness is a journey full of steps forward and regression. Searching for your identity is a process with no real destination. You’ll never be “done” because you’re always growing and changing.
\nLiving authentically and finding your identity involves dealing with your past and forgiving others.<\/p>\n
Noticing how we react to situations and the emotions that come up will help give you the key to what your underlying fears are. After the reaction, stop and look at the feelings and doubts that come up in your mind.<\/p>\n
When you find yourself afraid, panicking and resisting whatever is going on.
\nWhen you find yourself willing and praying for a certain outcome, you will be face to face with your deep-rooted underlying fear, which in my experience boils down to \u201cI am not good enough\u201d for many of us.<\/p>\n
To help you discover these underlying fears think of what the trigger was?<\/p>\n
We all have some triggers that would fire off the process of negative emotions.
\nI have some trigger words that get me going, I am sure you do too. It is that word or that assumption that often *somebody else uses on you that sets you off \u2013 and often to an uncontrollable downward spiral where you are reacting and reacting.<\/p>\n
Not realising that you are not reacting to just the current situation but you are reacting to the primary situation. The first time you experienced these feelings and associated them with these triggers.<\/p>\n
*Tat Svam Asi
\nThe second of Deepak\u2019s Sutra Statements in the Synchrodestiny:<\/p>\n
THROUGH THE MIRROR OF RELATIONSHIPS I DISCOVER MY NONLOCAL SELF
\nI SEE OTHERS IN MYSELF AND MYSELF IN OTHERS.<\/p>\n
So it is only in relationships that we get to see ourselves truly and how we react and behave, eventually through this \u201crelating\u201d we get to peel the layers and discover our real selves.<\/p>\n
So, what to do?
\nThe next time someone you are in any kind of relationship with pushes one of these buttons that triggers a negative emotion, stop, breathe and wait. Take time to respond rather than react automatically.<\/p>\n
When that trigger is fired, ask yourself, what behavior do you want to do instead?<\/p>\n
This can only be answered when we know who we are and who we want to be. Then ask yourself, if I have already been through my journey and have already discovered this self, this beautiful self, how would he\/she react in this situation? What outcome do I want here?
\nWhat am I committed to creating here?
\nTo fulfill and give more supporting evidence to my old negative beliefs?
\nLet this be another time I get to prove that –<\/p>\n
\u201cAll women are users\u201d
\n\u201cAll men are bustards\u201d
\n\u201cThere are no free rides\u201d
\n\u201cPeople are always out to get me\u201d<\/p>\n
Or….. do you want to create an outcome where you get to break the old patterns and reaffirm how you can live the life you desire and that you deserve to be happy?<\/p>\n
When we react based on our commitments (underlying or conscious),
\nWe will create an outcome.
\nThe key is to react based on the desired outcome rather than the limiting negative old belief.
\nPractice makes perfect.<\/p>\n
Whenever we learn a new response to a predictable old pattern, we have to practice doing it deliberately. The difference is, when you do it on purpose, you can accelerate the learning. Otherwise, you are left to the slow learning that comes from repeating undesired behaviors over and over.<\/p>\n
In the movie Yes Man, Jim Carrey\u2019s character Carl starts out as an extreme example of someone who has an Underlying Automatic Commitment (UAC) to \u201cNo\u201d. No matter what opportunities come his way, no matter what someone may offer him or ask of him, Carl is pre-programmed and ready with an excuse as to why he can\u2019t do it. Later in the movie, he is hypnotized into saying \u201cYes\u201d to everything.<\/p>\n
In the end, Carl finally learns how to say \u201cYes\u201d or \u201cNo\u201d authentically and with equal conviction, based on what he truly wants rather than an old negative belief that rendered him a prisoner of his own pre-programming.<\/p>\n
The old habit of living in the Underlying commitment only serves to give us a way to automatically come up with excuses and it prevents us from fully living and experiencing life itself. While when we start to create a new habit of responding to the situations based on our truths, not the bullshit we made up as we were growing up, we are present, aware, receptive, vulnerable and open to the uncertainty of the very next moment in time, being authentically who we are.<\/p>\n
Aham Brahmasmi.
\nMalti Bhojwani<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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