TAG – Thankfulness, Appreciation, Gratitude – Develop the Attitude Today!
Taken from my very first book: Thankfulness, Appreciation Gratitude
Where we are in life is made up of the sum of our habits. Our physical, financial and mental health is the total of the little things we do every day. Instilling a daily habit of writing in this diary will change your life in ways you cannot imagine. The simple act of expressing gratefulness and feeling it takes away all negativity – ear, stress, guilt, lack and sadness, and you will feel awesome, even the good feelings only lasts for the few moments that you are writing in the journal, this daily habit and the positive vibrations will add up and help you manifest a life full of joy and happiness.
Think for one moment of the thousands of people in Leh who were rendered homeless overnight in August 2010, do you have a roof over your head? Are you dry? What about the Northwestern Chinese who also suffered due to the rain triggered mudslide. Imagine losing your family and friends overnight. Did you know that in Vietnam, the per capita income in 2008 was just over $1,000 a year. That is only $2.80 a day, how much did your lunch cost today? 1.6 billion people are living in darkness, 400 million are from India and many of them use wax candles, dung cakes and firewood to illuminate their homes. Do we even give it a second thought when we hit the light switch in our homes? Are you grateful? A huge percentage of the world’s population is illiterate. Can you read? A portion of the world’s population is less than physically or mentally whole. Can you see? Can you hear? Can you walk? Is there anything you have that others don’t? A phone? An internet connection? A motorbike? Is there anything you can do that others can’t? Do you have a talent? Have you – in actuality – been blessed with anything for which to be grateful?
When you are feeling grateful and thankful for being healthy and alive, that is the purest form of prayer. In those moments of feeling thankful you are in a natural state of abundance. You are focusing all your energy on what you already have in your life. The polar opposite of which is complaining. When you complain, about the weather, the traffic, your bills, people around you, you are magnifying what is lacking in your life.
I started to practice gratitude by writing every night in a journal. This practice changed my life. Having ready countless self-help and personal development books and attended so many workshops, the one constant message that I received and decided to instill as a habit was to write down the things I am grateful for, every night. Some nights I struggled, when everything seemed to have gone wrong, and I could not think of being grateful and some nights I was just too lazy to put pen to paper, then it started to work in reverse, I went about my day, noticing things I was grateful for and made mental notes and sometimes, would type text messages to myself on my phone, so I did not forget. A cup of tea with just the right amount of sugar. An umbrella handy when it started to rain, a parking spot, a smile, a gesture from a shopkeeper, or a waiter. Someone giving me way in traffic. The flavour of the food I ate, the almost fender bender that did not happen, because I braked my car in time. A sale tag on the dress that I intended to buy anyway. Tissue paper handy when I needed it, 5 cent pieces on the ground, my daughter’s health and happiness, soft cotton sheets on my bed, the music playing on my ipod, the beautiful art that surrounded me.
The Swedish pop-group, ABBA so aptly said in their song “Thank you for the Music” in 1973 – “Thank you for the music, the song I am singing, thanks for all the joy their bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honesty, what would life be, without a song or a dance, what are we?” Beauty surrounds us all the time, in architecture, people, music, art but to actually stop, live in the present and appreciate our surroundings and to remember the moment again later in the day and write thanks for them is a practice that will attract more and more beauty in your life.
As time went by, I stopped looking for things or events, or anything tangible, but rather found myself listing names of the people who touched my life that day. In hindsight, I even realized that I was grateful for the people I met who seemed to rub me the wrong way or disappoint me in some way, for those meetings led to a learning or a new opportunity. Feeling gratitude and then writing it in my journal at the end of the day became second nature. I formed a very empowering habit. In fact, thinking about things to be grateful for every night will help you even sleep better, this is simply because you will think less negative and more positive thoughts as you put your head on your pillow.
Yes it is easy to be grateful when things seem to be going well, practice being grateful for even the challenges in your life, look for what is still good and what you still have even when things seem really bleak. This is not new, I did not discover the power of practicing gratitude, however with this diary, I am hoping that you will make it a habit to practice what you already know.As it is what you do a little of every single day that will add up to create a bank of abundance in your life.
Look for the beauty and joy in life, the simple things like waking up on a soft bed, your family and loved ones around you healthy, beautiful sunrises, and inhale as you acknowledge it all. Being able to stop the noise of your worries and stresses of the day for a few moments and to focus on the present and your breathing will encourage you to feel good and happy about all the things you have. When you have your meal, savour the taste, the colours and aroma of all the ingredients. When you have a shower, savour the water temperature and pressure, the fragrance of your soap. Training your mind to truly appreciate everything that you have will help you create a constant attitude of gratitude. Remember these things you are thankful for and write them down in here at the end of the day. On challenging days, when things just did not seem to go your way, these are the times when it would be most helpful to look for the silver lining in the clouds and find some things that you can feel grateful for.
Stop for a moment and observe your surroundings right now and notice three things that you did not even notice you are using till I asked you to have a look, that make your life so easy. Is your air conditioner or heater on? Are you in a comfortable room or a sofa or a bed? Do you have music or the television on in the background? Did you just have a lovely meal? Can you think of one person in the world who cares where you are and how you are today?
Any time I feel like I have some reason to feel sorry for myself, I look around me at all the tools and privileges I have in that particular moment, and I imagine what it would be like to be missing one of them right now.
Things could be worse, imagine being stuck in the same traffic jam, but having to go to the bathroom really badly? Imagine losing your wallet at the airport when you are just about to travel. We only notice what we have around us when it is taken away. This diary is meant to help you cultivate the habit of noticing what you have around you while you have it.
I am not a scientist who has studied Quantum Physics and I am not here to quantify anything I say with statistics, percentages and researched or surveyed proof, what I can say, is that I have seen it work, for me and people around me. Being grateful, creates a feeling, an almost overwhelming feeling, which causes a vibration on a deep level. I believe that these vibrations connect us to the Universe and attract like vibrations. Simply put, the more grateful you are, the more you will have to be grateful for.
On that note, I have been writing in my Gratitude Diary for the last two years and everyday, I have more and more to be grateful for.
Everything I want and need makes its way to me. At the risk of sounding like a nagging mum telling her children to eat their vegetables, because she knows that they are good for them, please start writing in here every night and get all the people you love to do the same. It is just that this works and I really want you to experience what I know you will. There is immense power in words and putting your appreciation for someone or something into words that are expressed can change your life.
My invitation to you is to take it on as a “90 day challenge”. Start tonight, find today’s page and start. I have carefully compiled quotes, short stories, poems and tips in between the pages to inspire you to write.
With Thankfulness, Appreciation & Gratitude,
Professional Coach (PCC – ICF) l Author l Facilitator l Speaker | Life Coach trained in Ontological Coaching & NLP
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|“Life is not a maze where you have your eyes on the gaps, life is a beautiful journey, stop looking for what’s not there, instead look at what IS.” – Malti Bhojwani – Bestselling Author “Don’t Think of a Blue Ball” Quote from upcoming publication, “365 Tweetable Quotes“|
“Gratitude is not only the greatest of the virtues but the parent of all others.” Cicero