FAILURE – A misunderstood world – by Biren Patnaik

May 6, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  6 Comments

“You are a failure!”

How often have you heard this? In my life, I have heard it many times – from friends, parents & sometimes from within. The most dangerous is when we hear it from our inner voice. You are compared to a benchmark and then measured against it. Parents & teachers do it more often than anyone else.

When I was a kid, I read a quote in The READERS DIGEST which is instilled in my mind forever. I don’t remember writer but it went like this – “No No No No No…, the more number of No’s you hear, the closer you are to a Yes!”.It is so simple but so deeply powerful! It changed my life forever.

Why is failure so misunderstood.

People take failure as a point where they feel no good for themselves and their loved ones. This is where your own voice can come to your rescue. If you believe that failure is a point to stop then you have lost your path but if you think that you have learnt something worthwhile from this failure then it serves as a catalyst for your growth.

Remember it never ends until you stop!

The famous scientist of our time – Stephen Hawkins was diagnosed with ALS (Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis) when he was doing his PhD from Cambridge University. (Remember the Ice Bucket Challenge)? He was only given 2 years to live at the time. He is now 71. In the initial years he was scared that he will not be able to complete his PhD. But he struggled and fought his life battle and published something astonishing – A Brief History of time.

He failed many times and to add up his pain, his body was against it but he fought and he gave the world something to ponder for the rest of time. He uses his cheek muscle to interact with the world. Think about the perseverance and determination with which he has survived. Has he failed?

If you don’t know his story, watch the 2014 movie based on the true events of his life.

“The Theory of Everything”

There are numerous examples of such failure stories that rose above it and achieved some impossible feats. People with strong mind and patience achieve super human results.

Did you know?

Gone With the Wind was rejected by 38 publishers. Legend has it that Walt Disney was turned down 302 times before finally getting financing for his dream of creating Walt Disney World. It’s also been said that KFC founder Colonel Sanders was rejected 1009 times before finding a taker for his chicken recipe. Imagine what the world would be like if they had given up after 1 or 2 or 3 failures?

Failure sounds cruel but it can be a life-changing event. If the Failure is accepted with grace & humanity and reworked using the correct path and pattern, nothing is impossible!

Failure can be devastating but it can be inspirational and it is the way we perceive it. As a kid we failed to understand our parents, mathematics, Science; as a youngster we failed to get good marks, get good girl friends / boyfriends, etc.; as a man we failed to understand our duty to our nation, parents, spouse, brothers/sisters, etc. So we can see that we keep on failing in life in different forms, at different levels, at different scenarios. But we always overcame it, for some we had to fight hard and for some we just sailed through.

Today, as I write this, I am able to recollect all my major failures in life and I am trying to do a retrospective analysis. Now I think if I would have done that in a different way then perhaps the result would have been different. I am only trying to help myself and in process others to understand the importance of FAILURE and get the desired result!

As the saying goes “Failure is stepping stone to success”, so be a champ and achieve the impossible!

“FAILURE is getting you an INCH closer to success and your next step might be your success”

Biren Patnaik is a blogger by passion, a professional by character, a dreamer by nature. He is a presently working in an MNC based in Gurgaon. He loves writing articles and short stories, likes reading inspirational books and listening to various philanthropist like Les Brown, Anthony Robbins, Napolean Hill and Robin Sharma. He has his own blogging site –

Facebook id:

Twitter handle @uniqueBIren.

“I  am on a journey to pursue my dreams, my passion and enjoy the unlimited learning’s that is coming my way.”

Watch some Famous Failure stories:


Biren Patnaik

The Importance of Letting Go – by Kalpana Patel – Eating Psychology Coach (ICF)

May 6, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

I often get asked about the relationship between weight and emotions. This article by fellow respected life coach Kalpana Patel sheds some light on it:

Every attachment, be it a relationship, a material object, a position is accompanied by fear. What happens when we evoke fear? We set into motion the physiology of stress.

We need to learn to let go. Letting go neither means ending a relationship, nor does it mean not enjoying the material things you have in life. It just means to always be mindful that we don’t attach ourselves to them. When we live in a state of detachment, we learn to live without any fear. Living in this state always keeps us in a state of balance because we start to focus on the fact that true happiness lies only within us. We have learnt to place the responsibility of keeping us happy on external relations and material possessions. When we do that, we are always afraid that if things change on the outside life will become difficult and we will no longer be happy.

What happens in a relationship where we attach ourselves too much? There is the fear of losing the relationship. When that fear sets in, we begin to try and control the lives of the people involved in that relationship, thinking that by doing so we can ensure that we don’t lose them. But what happens in reality is that, we are only doing the exact opposite of that. Suffocating others in our relationships only out of fear of losing them, takes them even farther away from us.

It takes time to feel comfortable spending time with oneself.

Gradually the more we do that and the more we enjoy being with ourselves, we create a beautiful relationship with ourselves and the outer world.

As an Eating psychology coach, I know that holding on and not letting go can also result into holding on to excess weight. When we are holding on to excess weight, we need to do some inner reflection about what is holding on to that excess weight representing? What are we holding on to that is leading to this holding on to the excess weight? Past grudges, fear, toxic relationships, our own limiting beliefs.

We need to let go all of these and embrace forgiveness. Forgiving others and ourselves brings us to a place of feeling an inner peace and enables us to be able to love and accept ourselves unconditionally and believe it or not, but that is the first step towards even letting go of excess weight.

Kalpana is a certified Life Coach from ICA and also a certified Eating Psychology Coach from The Institute for the Psychology of Eating. She works with people to help them love themselves “Now” as opposed to waiting to do that only when they “Get there” . Getting there could mean different things for different people. It could be getting the perfect job, perfect weight, perfect life partner. By loving themselves unconditionally, they are placing the key to their happiness in their own hands. She helps people form a healthy relationship with themselves and in turn with food!

To read more by Kalpana see:


Kalpana Patel

For more on Letting Go (of regrets, mistakes, guilt and to forgive, watch this Multimedia event:




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May 5, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

If you love to write and think that you have something new, interesting and helpful to say, we welcome your contributions.

Just a few guidelines:


  • STRICTLY stick to a word count of less than 700 words (we won’t accept longer submissions – as challenging as you may find this, this is a powerful exercise of editing your own writing)
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Using Seduction In Our Daily Lives – by Professional Life Malti B trained in Ontological Coaching and Somatic Work

March 15, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  1 Comment

Seduction is a powerful human instinct to bring about desired responses from others and this art or skill has been severely repressed in many of us especially when living in cultures like India.

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Valentine’s Day is for Mums too – a dedication from Kusha A.K.A Happy Lives for her mum

February 8, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

Your Mother lives inside your laughter. And she's crystallised in every teardrop.

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Endings ARE Beginnings – Reflection and Visualisation Meditation by Life Coach Malti Bhojwani

December 22, 2014  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

Read the paragraph below and then shut this email, lie down, close your eyes and practice it in your own way...and if you drift to a short nap - that is the end gently open your eyes and keep a journal handy to write down some of the people you may want to thank and perhaps a few goals for 2015.

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Cheating or Chatting? Are You Cyber-Cheating Your Partner?

November 17, 2014  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

Though some may argue that isn’t this then mature love, as described above, where you live and let live allowing your partner and yourself to live your lives the way you desire, I’m not judging, simply suggesting that you be honest at least with yourself.

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So it's a fact, women are better writers than men!

So it’s a fact, women are better writers than men!

October 16, 2014  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

Grammarly_MenvsWomen_Writers_infographicI am not sharing this well researched finding just because my daughter’s novel “Enchanted Incognito” has just been published or because I too am a bit of a writer. Unfortunately since the early 19th century though, often, women have used male pseudonyms, just when they were beginning to get into literature and they felt that they would not be taken as seriously by readers as male authors. For example:

Louisa May Alcott: Prominent 19th century writer Louisa May Alcott began her career under the male pen name A. M. Barnard. You remember Little Women ( I did it for Literature in 1984)

Joanne Rowling: As author of the outrageously popular series Harry Potter, J. K. Rowling gained widespread popularity in a span of only a few years.

Nelle Harper Lee: Writing under the abbreviated name Harper Lee, Lee’s pen name does not necessarily disguise her identity, but does make her authorship fairly androgynous. Harper Lee became wildly famous for her novel To Kill a Mockingbird. I did this one for Literature too and only discovered today that he was a she! 🙂

But if thou had a looketh at the survey conducted by Grammarly  … you will see that if George Eliot were alive today, she would be better off sticking with her real name. After a ton of questions, over 3,000 respondents indicated that they believe women are better writers.

Men generally  “got to the point,” while we women were more likely to focus on “character development.”

Women were more likely to write about people, while men write more about things. We also are more adept at crafting longer sentences. 🙂

In conclusion, Grammarly stated that,  “Women tend to be more descriptive in their writing, and spend more time developing a greater variety of characters than men. Perhaps as a result, women are generally regarded to be better writers than men.”

See the detailed infographic.



Did you know that people with stronger writing skills get paid more?

Did you know that people with stronger writing skills get paid more?

October 14, 2014  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

People with stronger writing skills get paid more

Haven’t you formed an impression of a person just by reading their posts on social media or in articles? We subconsciously evaluate a person’s capabilities and intelligence from their use of grammar and here’s proof. In a survey of the work of freelancers, Grammarly  showed in an info graphic, the relationship between a professional’s writing skills and the pay he could command.

As they summarized, it does not hurt to proofread your communication and to put your best foot forward – grammatically!


5 Keys To Unlocking Your Dreams – Video Tutorial and Slides

September 5, 2014  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments


Day 1 – SEE


Some people are, some aren’t. But many have given up already.
Why is that only some people will end the year with SUCCESS?

I have some answers.

I don’t know what your goals and dreams are for the year,
but whether it’s increasing your income, increasing
happiness or getting the love you deserve (or buying
your dream home)… there’s still TIME left to make it
happen this year!!

The question is… do you have the KEYS to unlock your 

potential — so you can achieve these goals and
dreams… Or are you slamming against closed doors and
blocked opportunities?

My new 5 part mini-coaching is titled “5 KEYS TO BEGIN
LIVING YOUR DREAMS.” It will help you unlock the doors
of opportunity for your goals and dreams. Best of all…

… it’s available at no cost. All you have to do is act

This may be the boost you need to achieve your biggest
dreams. People all over the world are tuning in
*right now!!* Check it out!! It won’t be available

Just to give you a preview… today (day#1) is themed
around what you “SEE.”

CLICK here to Start Watching the 5 keys on Video Tutorial and CLICK on Slideshow to follow along with the Slideshow

What does this mean?

To get better results, we must have crystal clear, 20/20

vision in every area of your life.

Without it… you can expect more -un-necessary –
delays, upsets, disappointments, frustration and
detours and lock-outs!! Now, here’s the surprising part.

What if… perhaps, you’ve been wearing a BLINDFOLD for
the past few months, years or decades of your life. What
if… you’ve been mis-judging your reality?

Maybe you haven’t. But in this module I’m going to show
and prove to you, that it’s possible and likely you’ve been suffering from a hidden from of “life-blindness.”

If so, that’s okay, because there is a remedy.

With this corrective 20/20 vision, you can
more clearly steer your life into the future you’ve

Tune in now for this free VISION EXAM and discover

how you can begin living
the life of your dreams. When you see differently, you
can live differently.

This eye opening series may be just what you’ve been waiting for.

Remember, it’s totally free! No strings, no obligations.
Just click on the link below to get access.

~ Malti

w Love & Gratitude

P.S. Don’t hesitate to join this program with the rest
of us. It’s worth your time. But more
importantly… it’s worth your life.

Even if you’re already living your dreams, this program
can help you stay *on schedule* with achieving the next
big dream on your list.



What NEW decisions do you need to make to change your

You probably have an idea of how you want things to be
different… but according to my work with coaching
clients, one of the most frustrating problems they face
is knowing WHICH decision to make.

When you increase and heighten your ability to make
POWERFUL decisions, you can eliminate the GUESSWORK of
getting the success, achievement and results you desire.

And you can achieve your goals and dreams in a fraction
of the time. You can do this!!

The truth is… it’s going to take new DECISIONS and
bold DECLARATIONS to get DIFFERENT results in your life.

You may have heard this “cliche” statement before, but
I’m sure no one has explained it the way I will. In
today’s session, I reveal Key #2 and how you can use
this key to unlock the doors to your grandest desires.

One DECISION you have to make is the REFUSAL to accept
anything less than the best for your life. Another
decision you must make, is the CHOICE to consistently
take action to get the life you desire. But there are
other critical decisions you must make for MAXIMUM
results. I’ll reveal them inside.

Make great decisions today and live the best life


No matter where you are in life… there’s always room for

improvement. Am I wrong?

I hope not. Whether you’re rich and famous, single,
married, unemployed or making six figures, happy or
sad…my role is to help you live the best life

Take advantage of this mini-series. Start now. It costs
you nothing!!! If there’s something else I can do to
help you reach your dreams, I’d like to know about it.

Key #3 is The Gap- between what you can SEE and what you really want….

In Key #4 I outline the actions you must take after
you’ve made the decision to bridge the gap between where
you are and where you want to be.

But more importantly, you’ll discover HOW to take action
in a powerful way that’s different than the way you
might normally take action.

And once you take that action, the next most useful KEY
to unlock your dreams is key #5 : CONTINUITY.