The Importance of Letting Go – by Kalpana Patel – Eating Psychology Coach (ICF)

May 6, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

I often get asked about the relationship between weight and emotions. This article by fellow respected life coach Kalpana Patel sheds some light on it:

Every attachment, be it a relationship, a material object, a position is accompanied by fear. What happens when we evoke fear? We set into motion the physiology of stress.

We need to learn to let go. Letting go neither means ending a relationship, nor does it mean not enjoying the material things you have in life. It just means to always be mindful that we don’t attach ourselves to them. When we live in a state of detachment, we learn to live without any fear. Living in this state always keeps us in a state of balance because we start to focus on the fact that true happiness lies only within us. We have learnt to place the responsibility of keeping us happy on external relations and material possessions. When we do that, we are always afraid that if things change on the outside life will become difficult and we will no longer be happy.

What happens in a relationship where we attach ourselves too much? There is the fear of losing the relationship. When that fear sets in, we begin to try and control the lives of the people involved in that relationship, thinking that by doing so we can ensure that we don’t lose them. But what happens in reality is that, we are only doing the exact opposite of that. Suffocating others in our relationships only out of fear of losing them, takes them even farther away from us.

It takes time to feel comfortable spending time with oneself.

Gradually the more we do that and the more we enjoy being with ourselves, we create a beautiful relationship with ourselves and the outer world.

As an Eating psychology coach, I know that holding on and not letting go can also result into holding on to excess weight. When we are holding on to excess weight, we need to do some inner reflection about what is holding on to that excess weight representing? What are we holding on to that is leading to this holding on to the excess weight? Past grudges, fear, toxic relationships, our own limiting beliefs.

We need to let go all of these and embrace forgiveness. Forgiving others and ourselves brings us to a place of feeling an inner peace and enables us to be able to love and accept ourselves unconditionally and believe it or not, but that is the first step towards even letting go of excess weight.

Kalpana is a certified Life Coach from ICA and also a certified Eating Psychology Coach from The Institute for the Psychology of Eating. She works with people to help them love themselves “Now” as opposed to waiting to do that only when they “Get there” . Getting there could mean different things for different people. It could be getting the perfect job, perfect weight, perfect life partner. By loving themselves unconditionally, they are placing the key to their happiness in their own hands. She helps people form a healthy relationship with themselves and in turn with food!

To read more by Kalpana see: https://chopra.com/ccl/are-we-teaching-our-children-to-stress

 

Kalpana Patel

For more on Letting Go (of regrets, mistakes, guilt and to forgive, watch this Multimedia event: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BnoV8FiXMOQ

 

 

 

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May 5, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

If you love to write and think that you have something new, interesting and helpful to say, we welcome your contributions.

Just a few guidelines:

DOs

  • STRICTLY stick to a word count of less than 700 words (we won’t accept longer submissions – as challenging as you may find this, this is a powerful exercise of editing your own writing)
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  • Send us your brief bio (less than 100 words) with links to your website, Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram and Twitter pages.

DON’Ts

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TERMS:

  • By submitting to MaltiBhojwani you acknowledge that you accept any form of editing that might occur on behalf of the Malti Bhojwani site editorial team.
  • Photos: All contributors are encouraged to submit photos with their posts. Ensure they are personally shot or royalty free. We do not accept images that may have royalty or that have watermarks on them.

 

WHY WRITE FOR MALTI BHOJWANI SITE?

1. Writing for the Malti Bhojwani site gives you a chance to be part of this discussion, and to shape the way self help, health, fitness, wellbeing, coaching, transformation is perceived around the world. You’ll help change lives.

2. You’ll reach a global audience. We share most posts on Facebook, Pinterest, and Twitter.

HOW TO SUBMIT:

Please email us the following if you’re ready to submit:

  • Your full post with a working title. Please send this as a word.doc
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Using Seduction In Our Daily Lives – by Professional Life http://maltibhojwani.com/blog/wp-admin/revision.php?revision=294Coach Malti B trained in Ontological Coaching and Somatic Work

March 15, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  1 Comment

Seduction is a powerful human instinct to bring about desired responses from others and this art or skill has been severely repressed in many of us especially when living in cultures like India.

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Valentine’s Day is for Mums too – a dedication from Kusha A.K.A Happy Lives for her mum

February 8, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

Your Mother lives inside your laughter. And she's crystallised in every teardrop.

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Endings ARE Beginnings – Reflection and Visualisation Meditation by Life Coach Malti Bhojwani

December 22, 2014  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

Read the paragraph below and then shut this email, lie down, close your eyes and practice it in your own way...and if you drift to a short nap - that is great....at the end gently open your eyes and keep a journal handy to write down some of the people you may want to thank and perhaps a few goals for 2015.

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Cheating or Chatting? Are You Cyber-Cheating Your Partner?

November 17, 2014  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

Though some may argue that isn’t this then mature love, as described above, where you live and let live allowing your partner and yourself to live your lives the way you desire, I’m not judging, simply suggesting that you be honest at least with yourself.

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So it's a fact, women are better writers than men!

So it’s a fact, women are better writers than men!

October 16, 2014  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

Grammarly_MenvsWomen_Writers_infographicI am not sharing this well researched finding just because my daughter’s novel “Enchanted Incognito” has just been published or because I too am a bit of a writer. Unfortunately since the early 19th century though, often, women have used male pseudonyms, just when they were beginning to get into literature and they felt that they would not be taken as seriously by readers as male authors. For example:

Louisa May Alcott: Prominent 19th century writer Louisa May Alcott began her career under the male pen name A. M. Barnard. You remember Little Women ( I did it for Literature in 1984)

Joanne Rowling: As author of the outrageously popular series Harry Potter, J. K. Rowling gained widespread popularity in a span of only a few years.

Nelle Harper Lee: Writing under the abbreviated name Harper Lee, Lee’s pen name does not necessarily disguise her identity, but does make her authorship fairly androgynous. Harper Lee became wildly famous for her novel To Kill a Mockingbird. I did this one for Literature too and only discovered today that he was a she! 🙂

But if thou had a looketh at the survey conducted by Grammarly  … you will see that if George Eliot were alive today, she would be better off sticking with her real name. After a ton of questions, over 3,000 respondents indicated that they believe women are better writers.

Men generally  “got to the point,” while we women were more likely to focus on “character development.”

Women were more likely to write about people, while men write more about things. We also are more adept at crafting longer sentences. 🙂

In conclusion, Grammarly stated that,  “Women tend to be more descriptive in their writing, and spend more time developing a greater variety of characters than men. Perhaps as a result, women are generally regarded to be better writers than men.”

See the detailed infographic.

 

 

Did you know that people with stronger writing skills get paid more?

Did you know that people with stronger writing skills get paid more?

October 14, 2014  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments
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People with stronger writing skills get paid more

Haven’t you formed an impression of a person just by reading their posts on social media or in articles? We subconsciously evaluate a person’s capabilities and intelligence from their use of grammar and here’s proof. In a survey of the work of freelancers, Grammarly  showed in an info graphic, the relationship between a professional’s writing skills and the pay he could command.

As they summarized, it does not hurt to proofread your communication and to put your best foot forward – grammatically!

 

5 Keys To Unlocking Your Dreams – Video Tutorial and Slides

September 5, 2014  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

5keys

Day 1 – SEE

ARE YOU “ON SCHEDULE” TO ACHIEVING YOUR GOALS AND DREAMS
THIS YEAR??

Some people are, some aren’t. But many have given up already.
Why is that only some people will end the year with SUCCESS?

I have some answers.

I don’t know what your goals and dreams are for the year,
but whether it’s increasing your income, increasing
happiness or getting the love you deserve (or buying
your dream home)… there’s still TIME left to make it
happen this year!!

The question is… do you have the KEYS to unlock your 

potential — so you can achieve these goals and
dreams… Or are you slamming against closed doors and
blocked opportunities?

My new 5 part mini-coaching is titled “5 KEYS TO BEGIN
LIVING YOUR DREAMS.” It will help you unlock the doors
of opportunity for your goals and dreams. Best of all…

… it’s available at no cost. All you have to do is act
fast!

This may be the boost you need to achieve your biggest
dreams. People all over the world are tuning in
*right now!!* Check it out!! It won’t be available
forever.

Just to give you a preview… today (day#1) is themed
around what you “SEE.”

CLICK here to Start Watching the 5 keys on Video Tutorial and CLICK on Slideshow to follow along with the Slideshow

What does this mean?

To get better results, we must have crystal clear, 20/20

vision in every area of your life.

Without it… you can expect more -un-necessary –
delays, upsets, disappointments, frustration and
detours and lock-outs!! Now, here’s the surprising part.

What if… perhaps, you’ve been wearing a BLINDFOLD for
the past few months, years or decades of your life. What
if… you’ve been mis-judging your reality?

Maybe you haven’t. But in this module I’m going to show
and prove to you, that it’s possible and likely you’ve been suffering from a hidden from of “life-blindness.”

If so, that’s okay, because there is a remedy.

With this corrective 20/20 vision, you can
more clearly steer your life into the future you’ve
imagined.

Tune in now for this free VISION EXAM and discover

how you can begin living
the life of your dreams. When you see differently, you
can live differently.

This eye opening series may be just what you’ve been waiting for.

Remember, it’s totally free! No strings, no obligations.
Just click on the link below to get access.

~ Malti

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P.S. Don’t hesitate to join this program with the rest
of us. It’s worth your time. But more
importantly… it’s worth your life.

Even if you’re already living your dreams, this program
can help you stay *on schedule* with achieving the next
big dream on your list.

 

Day 2 – DECISIONS

What NEW decisions do you need to make to change your
life?

You probably have an idea of how you want things to be
different… but according to my work with coaching
clients, one of the most frustrating problems they face
is knowing WHICH decision to make.

When you increase and heighten your ability to make
POWERFUL decisions, you can eliminate the GUESSWORK of
getting the success, achievement and results you desire.

And you can achieve your goals and dreams in a fraction
of the time. You can do this!!

The truth is… it’s going to take new DECISIONS and
bold DECLARATIONS to get DIFFERENT results in your life.

You may have heard this “cliche” statement before, but
I’m sure no one has explained it the way I will. In
today’s session, I reveal Key #2 and how you can use
this key to unlock the doors to your grandest desires.

One DECISION you have to make is the REFUSAL to accept
anything less than the best for your life. Another
decision you must make, is the CHOICE to consistently
take action to get the life you desire. But there are
other critical decisions you must make for MAXIMUM
results. I’ll reveal them inside.

Make great decisions today and live the best life
possible.

~Malti

No matter where you are in life… there’s always room for

improvement. Am I wrong?

I hope not. Whether you’re rich and famous, single,
married, unemployed or making six figures, happy or
sad…my role is to help you live the best life
possible.

Take advantage of this mini-series. Start now. It costs
you nothing!!! If there’s something else I can do to
help you reach your dreams, I’d like to know about it.

Key #3 is The Gap- between what you can SEE and what you really want….

In Key #4 I outline the actions you must take after
you’ve made the decision to bridge the gap between where
you are and where you want to be.

But more importantly, you’ll discover HOW to take action
in a powerful way that’s different than the way you
might normally take action.

And once you take that action, the next most useful KEY
to unlock your dreams is key #5 : CONTINUITY.

TAG – Thankfulness, Appreciation, Gratitude – Develop the Attitude Today!

September 5, 2014  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

CLICK HERE & Watch these 10 Videos now and give yourself a strong dose of Attitude Gratitude today

Taken from my very first book: Thankfulness, Appreciation Gratitude

***Malti_bookTAG her first book reprint

Where we are in life is made up of the sum of our habits. Our physical, financial and mental health is the total of the little things we do every day. Instilling a daily habit of writing in this diary will change your life in ways you cannot imagine. The simple act of expressing gratefulness and feeling it takes away all negativity – ear, stress, guilt, lack and sadness, and you will feel awesome, even the good feelings only lasts for the few moments that you are writing in the journal, this daily habit and the positive vibrations will add up and help you manifest a life full of joy and happiness.

 

Think for one moment of the thousands of people in Leh who were rendered homeless overnight in August 2010, do you have a roof over your head? Are you dry? What about the Northwestern Chinese who also suffered due to the rain triggered mudslide. Imagine losing your family and friends overnight. Did you know that in Vietnam, the per capita income in 2008 was just over $1,000 a year. That is only $2.80 a day, how much did your lunch cost today? 1.6 billion people are living in darkness, 400 million are from India and many of them use wax candles, dung cakes and firewood to illuminate their homes.  Do we even give it a second thought when we hit the light switch in our homes? Are you grateful? A huge percentage of the world’s population is illiterate. Can you read? A portion of the world’s population is less than physically or mentally whole. Can you see? Can you hear? Can you walk? Is there anything you have that others don’t? A phone? An internet connection? A motorbike? Is there anything you can do that others can’t? Do you have a talent? Have you – in actuality – been blessed with anything for which to be grateful?

 

When you are feeling grateful and thankful for being healthy and alive, that is the purest form of prayer. In those moments of feeling thankful you are in a natural state of abundance. You are focusing all your energy on what you already have in your life. The polar opposite of which is complaining. When you complain, about the weather, the traffic, your bills, people around you, you are magnifying what is lacking in your life.

 

I started to practice gratitude by writing every night in a journal. This practice changed my life. Having ready countless self-help and personal development books and attended so many workshops, the one constant message that I received and decided to instill as a habit was to write down the things I am grateful for, every night. Some nights I struggled, when everything seemed to have gone wrong, and I could not think of being grateful and some nights I was just too lazy to put pen to paper, then it started to work in reverse, I went about my day, noticing things I was grateful for and made mental notes and sometimes, would type text messages to myself on my phone, so I did not forget. A cup of tea with just the right amount of sugar.  An umbrella handy when it started to rain, a parking spot, a smile, a gesture from a shopkeeper, or a waiter. Someone giving me way in traffic. The flavour of the food I ate, the almost fender bender that did not happen, because I braked my car in time. A sale tag on the dress that I intended to buy anyway. Tissue paper handy when I needed it, 5 cent pieces on the ground, my daughter’s health and happiness, soft cotton sheets on my bed, the music playing on my ipod, the beautiful art that surrounded me.

 

The Swedish pop-group, ABBA so aptly said in their song “Thank you for the Music” in 1973 – “Thank you for the music, the song I am singing, thanks for all the joy their bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honesty, what would life be, without a song or a dance, what are we?” Beauty surrounds us all the time, in architecture, people, music, art but to actually stop, live in the present and appreciate our surroundings and to remember the moment again later in the day and write thanks for them is a practice that will attract more and more beauty in your life.

 

As time went by, I stopped looking for things or events, or anything tangible, but rather found myself listing names of the people who touched my life that day. In hindsight, I even realized that I was grateful for the people I met who seemed to rub me the wrong way or disappoint me in some way, for those meetings led to a learning or a new opportunity. Feeling gratitude and then writing it in my journal at the end of the day became second nature. I formed a very empowering habit. In fact, thinking about things to be grateful for every night will help you even sleep better, this is simply because you will think less negative and more positive thoughts as you put your head on your pillow.

 

Yes it is easy to be grateful when things seem to be going well, practice being grateful for even the challenges in your life, look for what is still good and what you still have even when things seem really bleak. This is not new, I did not discover the power of practicing gratitude, however with this diary, I am hoping that you will make it a habit to practice what you already know.As it is what you do a little of every single day that will add up to create a bank of abundance in your life.

 

Look for the beauty and joy in life, the simple things like waking up on a soft bed, your family and loved ones around you healthy, beautiful sunrises, and inhale as you acknowledge it all. Being able to stop the noise of your worries and stresses of the day for a few moments and to focus on the present and your breathing will encourage you to feel good and happy about all the things you have. When you have your meal, savour the taste, the colours and aroma of all the ingredients. When you have a shower, savour the water temperature and pressure, the fragrance of your soap. Training your mind to truly appreciate everything that you have will help you create a constant attitude of gratitude. Remember these things you are thankful for and write them down in here at the end of the day. On challenging days, when things just did not seem to go your way, these are the times when it would be most helpful to look for the silver lining in the clouds and find some things that you can feel grateful for.

 

Stop for a moment and observe your surroundings right now and notice three things that you did not even notice you are using till I asked you to have a look, that make your life so easy. Is your air conditioner or heater on? Are you in a comfortable room or a sofa or a bed? Do you have music or the television on in the background? Did you just have a lovely meal? Can you think of one person in the world who cares where you are and how you are today?

 

Any time I feel like I have some reason to feel sorry for myself, I look around me at all the tools and privileges I have in that particular moment, and I imagine what it would be like to be missing one of them right now.

Things could be worse, imagine being stuck in the same traffic jam, but having to go to the bathroom really badly? Imagine losing your wallet at the airport when you are just about to travel. We only notice what we have around us when it is taken away. This diary is meant to help you cultivate the habit of noticing what you have around you while you have it.

 

I am not a scientist who has studied Quantum Physics and I am not here to quantify anything I say with statistics, percentages and researched or surveyed proof, what I can say, is that I have seen it work, for me and people around me. Being grateful, creates a feeling, an almost overwhelming feeling, which causes a vibration on a deep level. I believe that these vibrations connect us to the Universe and attract like vibrations. Simply put, the more grateful you are, the more you will have to be grateful for.

 

On that note, I have been writing in my Gratitude Diary for the last two years and everyday, I have more and more to be grateful for.

Everything I want and need makes its way to me. At the risk of sounding like a nagging mum telling her children to eat their vegetables, because she knows that they are good for them, please start writing in here every night and get all the people you love to do the same. It is just that this works and I really want you to experience what I know you will. There is immense power in words and putting your appreciation for someone or something into words that are expressed can change your life.

 

My invitation to you is to take it on as a “90 day challenge”. Start tonight, find today’s page and start. I have carefully compiled quotes, short stories, poems and tips in between the pages to inspire you to write.

 
With Thankfulness, Appreciation & Gratitude,

Malti Bhojwani
Professional Coach (PCC – ICF) l Author l Facilitator l Speaker | Life Coach trained in Ontological Coaching & NLP

mb@maltibhojwani.com www.maltibhojwani.com

Skype : malti.bhojwani

Life is not a maze where you have your eyes on the gaps, life is a beautiful journey, stop looking for what’s not there, instead look at what IS.” – Malti Bhojwani – Bestselling Author “Don’t Think of a Blue Ball Quote from upcoming publication, “365 Tweetable Quotes

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“Gratitude is not only the greatest of the virtues but the parent of all others.” Cicero

CLICK HERE & Watch these 10 Videos now and give yourself a strong dose of Attitude Gratitude today