Building trust, communication and connectivity among leaders

November 4, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

I was recently approached by a unique team of senior leaders who belonged to a support group with the intention of being there for each other to brainstorm and seek advice from each other on their various business and personal challenges. It is a structured organized platform that allows for this kind of meeting.
They had been relating with each other for over 5 years and it was time for an annual retreat – somewhat of a team-builder. They all had their own separate businesses and did not work together. They had come to a point of some dissatisfaction with the level of trust and intimacy within the group, so they sought me out as an external facilitator to help break down some of the barriers, open a space for honest and kind feedback and to help them see where they currently are in their own lives and as a group. They also wanted to look at where they want to be together moving forward.
It was a question of, can we become closer, be more connected or is this as good as it gets? The group consisted of men and women in their early 40s to 50s from diverse cultures and of different personalities.
I had a pre-session conversation with each of them separately prior to the planned live workshop, to gain a deeper insight on what was really going on for each of them and understand the group dynamics.
I sensed some disappointment, despondency, blame and mistrust. Some were resigned to the idea that they may need to split up and go their separate ways, while others were superficial in their interactions, as they didn’t feel their ideas were valued in the group sensing that they were not as good as the others. A few felt that the group didn’t give them enough value for the time commitment it demanded.

They had hoped to be able to turn to each other for support and advice. I learnt that they were all waiting for each other to be more open and sharing in order to deepen the relationship. It sounded much like a chicken and egg story. Some were battling with the idea if disclosure was equal to trust. And others felt trust was more about dependability. The very existence of this group was hinging on whether they could build a deeper commitment to each other, there were talks of disbanding if things didn’t evolve.
Ordinarily, to build trust, trainers would introduce some typical activities including a trust fall, where the group stands around and invites each participant to close their eyes one by one and literally fall back into their outstretched arms. Or there are the regular win/win type games where the objective is to all win together, but participants often get competitive and hence all lose.
On a cognitive level, we would consider going through the elements of trust, either based on Covey’s “Speed of Trust” which talks about 4 Cores of Credibility and 13 Behaviors of High Trust and Gittomer’s Little Book Of Trust. We’d look at communication based on Chalmers Brothers, “Language and the Pursuit of Happiness” and share inspirational stories from Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning.
But I knew that these leaders wanted something much deeper than just new things to do, it was a whole new way of being that they were yearning for without being able to articulate it.
It had to be about doing things differently rather than just doing different things. Most of them had done their MBAs at top business schools and had engaged in countless outward bound and personal development workshops. They’d attended talks by some of the world’s most inspiring thought leaders, and I knew I could not give them more new tools or teach them different things they could do, it needed a new way of doing and seeing the same things. The regular old team-building toolbox was not going to be enough for this intervention.
So I did my research, pulled up all my previous workshop run-sheets, caught up with my mentors and peers and invested weeks in deciding on the perfect choreography for the 2 days to help inspire some insights! In the end though, they were the simplest exercises that had the biggest impact. One in particular that stands out was an activity that showed them how they resisted asking for help either because they felt competitive or because they had assumptions that the kind of help that may be available would not be enough or what they needed. When the penny dropped in this exercise, there were many “a-ha” moments for the entire group as they could relate how they behaved in it with they way they showed up in their real lives.
Another simple one that encouraged intimacy through presence and deep listening evoked emotional reactions that surprised the group as it opened up the floodgates of vulnerability that was yearning to be drawn out into the room. I stepped out of the way and surrendered to whatever was emerging.
Though some of the activities when isolated appeared strange and purposeless to them, the pieces started to fall together by the end of day 1. By mid morning on day two, tears were shed and some were hugging. Feedback was caring and useful and they started to see just how blessed they were to have each other.
I realised that it was through my own willingness to be open and trusting and at the same time not attached to my agenda that we were able to deeply connect with each other.
Each person’s unique life experiences, behaviors, beliefs and values added a new dynamic to the group creating learning for all on a deeply individual level. They were able to relate the lessons that they created themselves back to their own lives and relationships within and outside of the group.
I learnt that attempting to build and sustain this kind of connection amongst top leaders requires a custom approach and not a ‘standard’ “one size fits all” solution as human experiences are different.
I feel blessed to be able to do this work and be a catalyst for change and true transformation. It is humbling and deeply fulfilling.



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Practical and profound – Peggy Dubro’s endorsement of Malti’s books

September 29, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

Practical and profound, Malti writes from her experience and her heart. Through thoughtful and unique imagery she encourages you to adjust your perceptions of yourself in a most authentic way … and that is good news! New perceptions of oneself are the foundations for the deep and lasting changes you choose to create. Young and wise this strong,beautiful life coach is a true leader in the field of consciously managing your most precious resource, your personal energy.

Peggy Phoenix Dubro is an author, inspiring speaker, and international leader in the growing field of personal energy management and well being. Her work is practiced in over 70

The Mind Spa - Ignite Your Inner Life Coach and Don't Think of a Blue Ball

The Mind Spa – Ignite Your Inner Life Coach and Don’t Think of a Blue Ball

Plugging In Audio to help you find your centre and ground yourself in minutes

July 27, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

Listen while you sit or stand tall.




“I am not a Morning Person” – How being stubborn about statements like that can keep you fat and broke!

July 27, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

If you find yourself making statements like that to yourself and others, when alternate ways of doing things are suggested to you, then a question to ask yourself is if you are truly happy with the way your life is and the results you are creating in your life now? If you are, then that’s awesome, keep doing what you are doing, it is working for you and we all beat to a different drum, so don’t let me or anyone tell you how you should live your life, or that you need to be a morning person or any kind of person. However…..if you do want to change your results, perhaps you are not rich or thin or tolerant and you’d like to be…perhaps life is not feeling as joyful or fulfilling as you’d like it to be, then perhaps what needs to change first is these statements you have made about who you are.

It’s not just about the mornings, but if that has been a big one for you, then I invite you to become one just for a few weeks, try it out. If you want to experience life being a little different, perhaps you could try being a little different? Incorporate an hour (at least) of self-nourishing – nourish your body, mind, soul and heart every single day before you go out and do your stuff, serve the world, show up, first nourish yourself. This is why I call it the iHour. It started as 1 hour that I divided to include a walk, meditation, TAGging (writing in Thankfulness, Appreciation & Gratitude in my journal), learning and teaching something, connecting with loved ones…then it just grew, the walks grew longer, the meditation as well and now it takes me at least a couple of hours to prepare myself for the glorious day ahead. Read Chapter 4 of The Mind Spa – Ignite Your Inner Life Coach to find out more about the iHour. In today’s post, just a short installation on walking or exercising in the morning for weight management:

When I walk for about an hour, I burn less than 200 calories only. But walking or doing cardio in the earlier part of the day also increases your metabolic rate between 10% to 25% for up to 48 hours, with some studies showing an increase in metabolic rate for up to even 72 hours. Who said that and is it true? Well it is difficult to measure this perfectly, all I know is that it works! This is how I lost so much weight 8 years ago, and recently the only thing I had changed was that I walked in the evening  instead of the mornings, and I felt the difference. I wasn’t able to maintain my weight with the same efforts. Once I turned it around again, problem solved!

Metabolism refers to how much energy your body uses or how many calories you burn in a day. Boosting your metabolism means your body will produce extra heat and burn more calories for fuel during the day—without doing any additional exercise, hence if you insist on laying in bed or on your bum, because you are “not a morning person” and you say you desire to be slim, or to lose weight, then I say, you just love your comfort zone too much, and that includes being the weight you are, which is absolutely fine, but then stop complaining about it and stop going on about how much you want to lose weight, love your body the way it is , accept it and be happy. But if you really truly desire being slimmer and weighing less, then perhaps you need to reconsider these beliefs you have made up about yourself, like “I am not a morning person”.

Watch this space for “Overdose on the good stuff, and you won’t have room for anything that does not serve you!”

Cleansing Process By Moksha

June 5, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

What I wrote in the last post was about how to deal with situations that have caused hurt but what about hurt that’s riding with you on your back since a very long time? That baggage has to leave you otherwise it will only weigh you down every time baggage is added to it. Soon you wont be able to carry it and it will start percolating inside your body in the form of ailments and diseases. Get rid of it with immediate effect. Here’s a process you can follow.


Cleansing process

All of us need some kind of closure or settlement for some problems in our minds. We may not have been able to react or give it back optimally at the right time, therefore we carried baggage and now its too late to face the person who wronged us. This is a situation all of us find ourselves in, but you don’t have to live with it for the rest of your lives. You have the power, even today, to  give it, that closure. If you follow this process in earnest you will be able to rid yourself of a lot of pent up emotions and therefore physical ailments arising out of it.



Step 1. Accept that there’s a problem

Every negative emotion has a root somewhere. Eg If you are angry with someone for years, you have to realize that this situation needs to be taken care of. Or if your predominant emotion is jealously, you have to realize that you need to deal with it. This realization or acceptance that there is some problem is already half the battle won because most of us live in denial.


Step 2. Identify the problem

Lets say you are angry with someone for last 15 years and you accept that this needs a solution, because its hurting you deep inside, and you are unable to forgive, then the next step is to find the root cause of that anger. Ask yourself questions :

* am I angry with myself for letting it pass?

* am I angry with the person because they harmed me?

*am I angry because they hurt my ego?

*was it my dignity that was at stake?

*was it worth keeping so much anger inside me for so long?

*what were the reasons that made me angry, so angry that it stayed with me for so long?


Once you have successfully identified those reasons, face them, embrace them. Don’t be embarrassed to find a solution. You have to learn to look at each problem in the eye and say “Problem here I come, now lets sit across and beat it down”. Most of us run away from our problems/challenges. This ‘pushing it under the carpet,’ syndrome, all of us suffer from, but imagine a carpet that becomes a mountain soon.


Step 3. Talk it out with someone

Take it out of your system, by pouring it out to a close confidante. Don’t be scared of tears or emotional outburst. It will happen. We don’t like to see ourselves as weak. This happens specially with men. Societal conditioning expects them to be the strong guy, who never cries, or never lets emotion gets the better of him, but its ok to get emotional. Its ok to shed a tear or two. Not comfortable with shedding tears, its fine, but atleast talk it out. You don’t even know how much harm, pent up emotions can cause. Throw the muck out and lead a clean life. A beautiful human being like you doesn’t deserve this toxicity inside them.


Another solution: not comfortable with talking about it to someone, no problem.

When there is no one around, summon your own friend/mother from inside of you. That friend/mother is your soul (your guardian voice), its like a genie, you call upon it and its there, in whichever form you want.



Talk about it with this friend/mother of yours. Either loudly or in your mind.  Identify those milestones during which these episodes occurred in your life that gave you pain. Mentally visualize that milestone. If it hurt you so much, it has to be very vivid in your memory, sob like a baby if you have to. Go there, don’t fear, just go there, you have the strongest person with you, now no one can hurt you. Hang around there, allow the mother, (this entity) to hug you, tell you that it is over and its the past. She will tell you to burn those memories to ashes, and those ashes will help germinate the best saplings in your mind. Allow her to tell you to learn your lesson, to  retaliate optimally when you should, so you can avoid that baggage.



Don’t try and snap out of it immediately. Let it linger if it has to. Give yourself time, you have just cleansed yourself of so much baggage.



After you feel lighter, either meditate or do the activity that you like doing best.


About the Author – Rashmi Joshi  aka “Moksha”

Having meandered through life doing what I was ‘SUPPOSED TO’, I finally realized my calling- writing about how to derive those all important lessons that our souls were meant to. Fuelled by the desire to ‘learn as I lived’ had me writing original quotable quotes by grade 8.

I hold a masters degree in Labour Law, an MBA in HR and along side trained in classical singing, which I pursued for 24 years.

I have written a book on Practical Philosophy that helps people learn to live successfully, make wise choices and get rich by earning pearls of wisdom.


For more on detoxing and cleansing see Julie Sam’s article as posted in the Asian Age where she quoted several life coaches including Malti.

“Physically detoxing is relatively easy: Consuming fresh fruits and vegetables, eliminating caffeine, nicotine, alcohol or other mood-altering substances is what is required. But detoxing mentally and emotionally involves a whole lot more, says life coach Malti Bhojwani. She advises eliminating negative conversations of any form, refraining from complaining, whining, criticising, gossiping, lying and thinking/talking unpleasantly about oneself.

“You need to choose carefully and mindfully, your thoughts, refrain from arguments,” she adds. “Smile, be mindful and do one thing at a time, focusing all your attention on that one thing alone.”

Should we Go with the Flow or Swim against the Tide? By Malti Bhojwani (Hint: Only Dead Fish go with the flow)

May 21, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  1 Comment


In Yoga we aim to unite or integrate the body, the mind, and the spirit and create a balance. In asana and pranayama practice, we observe the flow of energy (prana). Balance is a state that is ever moving, if you look at the Yin and Yang symbol or the concept of Shiv Shakti as an energetic primordial flowing that never ends, you can see that one energy is meaningless without the other. The white can’t exist without the black and the whole cannot be conceptualized without both. Similarly balance should not be confused with stillness, when we balance a clutch and accelerator in a manual car, it is the tiny movement of both, when we balance on a bicycle, it is a slight teetering of left and right. Even in the dancer pose, our muscles are working to coordinate the natural seesawing in order to help keep us from falling.




I keep learning in my life, (as I don on my white belt and use it daily wondering if it will be black when I am put to rest finally), that there is a current and it is always moving, like the escalator of life. Just because you leave a place, a relationship a circumstance, it does not stop and wait for your return, it keeps moving, we are jumping on and off while they it continues in motion.


Some days, you stand politely to the side, satisfied in the deep faith that you will get there eventually, allowing others to rush beside you climbing two steps at a time, and sometimes, you move over to the the right and run up the moving escalator too, oblivious at times of the ones who are standing coolly by the side busying themselves on their smartphones. Then there are the rare times when you run in the opposite direction using all your might.


So the options are not only black or white, go with the flow or swim against the tide. There is a third way which I found after my own sensitivity became heightened through the devoted practice of Hatha yoga, TM Meditation, Homeopathy medicine. The self-development innocently brought a level of purity and cleansing that these practices have been said to bring to many.


I began to be able to sense when a harmonious change of pace became available. This pace is what I call swimming with the flow. There is a time to take action and a time to stay still, just like when we get into an asana, then there is a time for dynamism.


While recently in the 200 hour Yoga Teacher’s Training Course, I discovered just how tight my hamstrings are and that getting into the final pose of many Asanas are still a long way away for me. My guru Dr. Venky Reddy, teased me that it comes from my stubbornness, which I indignantly denied bullishly.


Seeing my hamstrings were not going to release, I took his suggestion and have been practicing a more flexible way of being in my life outside the mat with the hope that I will be able to do a halfway decent Padangusthasana someday and in turn reinforce my own Ontological coaching model of body-emotion and language cohesion. When you can interfere with one, you will successfully alter the others and hence your results.


Flexibility and stability are essential in creating balance. Societies depend on a balance between stability and flexibility. Your values, goals and conviction represent your stability or your trunk. Your willingness to learn, grow, evolve and interact, stem from being flexible and accepting.  A boxer too embodies this stability and flexibility at the same time, when he stands strong, but yet can bounce from side to side in the rink. Embody it by visualising the strong stem of a flower or even a tree and yet the dancing petals, branches or leaves.


Now, when I set goals, I am focused and hold high intentions but I remain flexible in the approach or the “how” I get to them. Instead of standing still or going against the tide, I realised there is such a thing as swimming with the current, riding the wave when new opportunities knock.

You will find that when you pursue a strong intention, you may ruffle a few feathers around and affect the equilibrium or homeostasis in your surroundings, and the best way to move forward despite this resistance is to swim forward with the current of positivity. Only dead fish go with the flow.


So when a client has a goal, desire or intention and despite their best efforts and hard work, they feel like there is an undercurrent pulling them 2 steps back each time they try to move forward and they find themselves in fear of the whirlpool sucking their dreams up, I encourage them gently to centre, breathe and refocus on the high intention again and then with fresh perspective and sensitivity, feel the direction of the stream’s flow and ride the wave to swim with it towards their goals. As for my Padangusthasana, I’m practicing patience learning to swim with rather that push into it.


Some nuggets from Malti’s books, “Don’t Think of a Blue Ball” and the upcoming “The Mind Spa”


  • Hold a high intention but remain flexible in the way it comes to be, so you can respond to opportunities when they knock.
  • Practise being free of resistance. Resistance keeps you blocked and shut down.
  • Being too disciplined and structured is not the answer for there is always a place for flexibility.
  • Remember that it isn’t all about you, you are a part of this world and in order to get anything, you have to give to the world. You are part of the Universe = YOUniverse
  • Understand that when there is an ‘up’ there has to be a ‘down’, and then there is also a ‘mid-air’. We all possess feminine and masculine attributes— and both are needed in order to survive. Doing and allowing are both parts of your growth. ‘Giving’ and ‘Receiving’ are both parts of your journey to manifesting.


As we start the new year most of us have business expansion objectives that we would like to achieve during 2016. If you aren’t yet sure how you are going to generate business leads, then you might want to look at Notable. 

Power of Self belief by Biren Patnaik

May 19, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

“One day I shall triumph the world, let the day be TODAY”

When was the last time you believed that you can achieve anything? When was the last time when did something amazing? When was the last time when your tears rolled down in accomplishment?
Remember when you were a child; did you ever give a second thought to buy a cycle when you asked from your father? You did everything that your father had asked you to do. As a child you never gave a second thought to anything. You could climb trees, you could do cycle stunts, you could stay without eating for hours just to make everyone meet your demands. You built yourself through numerous failures. Failing at something was just a word or getting ready for another attempt until you succeed. You had no fears, no regrets, no qualms but it was just your self-confidence which kept you going.
As a child, you worshipped a superforce which was invisible yet your belief made you realize that the higher energy will help you to achieve your goal. You were able to achieve your goals only because you believed yourself. There was no word called “RISK” or “What if?” rather you believed “Let’s try again” or “Why not?”
As you grew up, your vision got narrowed, your action stopped responding to your thoughts, you doubted your own ability, you started feeling conscious and you started fearing failure. But as someone has said, Great people think differently, see differently, analyze differently and so did you, but you never brought it into actions. How many times you have created a plan or thought of something which after some days or months became a reality by someone else and the same guy became famous for his innovative thought. What was the difference here? You were as great as that guy but only thing that separated you from him was his courage to action his thoughts and a result he became the innovative person suddenly.

Remember in order to be successful in life; you need to have a belief system, a system where you know yourself, your ability, a belief that you have something unique. Amazing things happen to courageous persons and not only to lucky persons. Even if you don’t achieve what you desired, never stop dreaming because dream is the greatest motivator of all, it pushes you every time, it makes you realize your strength & it gives you courage.
Why do people worship their idols? Why do people worship God? They believe that their idol or God has some power which no ordinary person or themselves have. The unknown super force makes them to be worshiped. You idols are not GOD but they had one super power – self-belief which made them what they are. Each one of you has the same, you need to just identify it and go with the flow. You are great too! You are where you always wanted to be. You are now in a comfort zone, arrogantly holding it with nothing to lose. Break the barrier and make a small move, you will be amazed with the result it delivers.

Everything needs a start and to do so, begin with a small step of being happy. Do one thing everyday which brings a smile in your face – it may be watching a cartoon, reading a book, playing game, writing a thought, helping others or anything which will impact throughout your day and gives a sense of accomplishments. Try it for next for next few days and see the magic unfold.
Children are God’s incarnation and that is why a child does amazing things. Bring the child in you and go a step closer to your dream. Humans do amazing things too. God has blessed us to be unique because he created every human being differently otherwise all of us would have looked same with same characteristics.
Start believing yourself and the power within you and say to yourself “I will triumph” because if God is great then whatever he created is also great.



About the Author:

Biren Patnaik is a blogger by passion, a professional by character, a dreamer by nature. He is a presently working in an MNC based in Gurgaon. He loves writing articles and short stories, likes reading inspirational books and listening to various philanthropist like Les Brown, Anthony Robbins, Napolean Hill and Robin Sharma. He has his own blogging site –

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Twitter handle @uniqueBIren.

“I  am on a journey to pursue my dreams, my passion and enjoy the unlimited learning’s that is coming my way.”



Compartmentalizing Pain (Control Your Emotions) by Moksha – Part 2

May 13, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

So how does one take control of ones emotions?

As opposed to the diagram in the first part of this article,  here the dominant negative emotion is reigning supreme. The divine voice or guardian soul has been forced to shrink to a small compartment. The result of this is that this negative emotion is ruling you now instead of the calm guardian voice.

Our emotions take the better of us in more ways than one. Every emotion demands a certain price that we land up paying at the cost of our inner self. Once that inner self of yours is given away as ransom, it takes days, maybe years to replenish it.

Is it worth it?  Obviously not. Its so not worth it. You deserve better, than being a slave to your emotions.

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Elevate yourself, be the master.

He got so angry when he realised that his wife of several years,  is having an affair. Waiting impatiently for her to come home, he thought that he could kill her. Hours ticked by until the door sprung open. There was a certain  spunk in the way she had been walking, for the past few days, he thought to himself. She had been unusually happy and wouldn’t get angry on small things like she always did. These were pointers and cursed himself for not picking up these clues earlier.

She entered, the anger on his face was enough for her to know that all was not well. She asked him if everything was alright and he said no. He told her that he had found out that she was cheating on him and asked her if it was true. She replied in the affirmative.  After hearing this, the anger that surged inside of him, knew no bounds. The curses, abuses and the violence were only the resultant of the anger that had gripped him.

She was laid up in hospital for next 8 days because of the injuries inflicted upon her by her husband.

She knew she had wronged him and he knew that he could have handled it in a more mature way but actions once executed, cannot be undone.

After being in a bad relationship for more than a decade, this was probably the last nail in the coffin and they decided to call it quits.

In this story things were handled badly. This was a classic case of pent up anger and disappointment with each other which blew up when it could hold no longer.

To let it come to this phase, itself is something I would call ‘displaced settlement’.  The time when things had started going awry in the their relationship, they should have tried to put things in place. Most us wait and presume that things will work out eventually. But for that ‘EVENTUALLY’ to happen, each one of us has to make efforts. Part of putting in that effort is to learn to manage emotion.

Managing emotion does not mean suppressing it, neither does it mean blowing up at the drop of a hat. It means letting emotion have exactly the place that it deserves. It should be a small compartment inside of you, until you deal with it and the key to that is to have the controls of this compartment in your hand. What I mean by your hand is the guardian voice/ guiding light/ soul/ universal energy within us. The more we elevate this energy within us, the more stability we achieve.

This voice has to be encouraged only then will it be able to grow, the more we listen, the more it grows.  Once it comes into robust health, and gains the necessary maturity, it takes over from us and then there’s no looking back.

He was a single parent, a loving father and a thinking person. He would want to better himself in every area, be it home, office, children or relationships. He would learn from every mistake he made and incorporate those lessons in his life. He had the realization that his thinking and actions had a direct impact on the life that he was leading. This approach led him to better and more peaceful times in his life, but  there were still certain traits in him that he desperately wanted to improve upon. He was unable to reign in his anger at times. He would get angry with his children for minor reasons and he knew that he needs to change that. His children used to wonder, about why their father just flies off the handle while being calm 99% of the times. Small mistakes solicit, small reactions, he realised this and decided that things needs to change because he is creating an imbalance in their lives.

Every time he felt the anger surge in him, he would stop for that second  and call upon his guardian voice to guide him. AND IT DID. He started showing improvement in this area of his life also. He started realising that the moment you give the guardian voice its due, the reigning negative emotion gets a miniscule place in the scheme of things. That’s what I mean by compartmentalizing. You don’t have to do much, it happens automatically. All you need to do is summon this guardian voice and the rest will be taken care of.

Reigning in these negative emotion will also give you closure instantly. I am not telling you to suppress it. I am telling you to call upon your guardian voice that not just gives negative emotion a back seat but with closure. You will see yourself being guided with explanations. All the answers will come from within you, if you just wait that millisecond before reacting to situations.


About the Author – Rashmi Joshi  aka “Moksha”

Having meandered through life doing what I was ‘SUPPOSED TO’, I finally realized my calling- writing about how to derive those all important lessons that our souls were meant to. Fuelled by the desire to ‘learn as I lived’ had me writing original quotable quotes by grade 8.

I hold a masters degree in Labour Law, an MBA in HR and along side trained in classical singing, which I pursued for 24 years.

I have written a book on Practical Philosophy that helps people learn to live successfully, make wise choices and get rich by earning pearls of wisdom.





Compartmentalizing Pain by Moksha Part 1

May 11, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments


What I mean by compartmentalizing pain is to let the pain take over only a part of you. When hurt is caused to you or you are worried about something, it may take up your energy reserves in its entirety which means that you may be unable to think beyond that incident or worry – that’s ok, let it worry you but only for some time. What you need to aim towards is to help it become a  small compartment inside you till you actually deal with it.

When an incident has just happened with you, call upon your guardian – your soul. Even if it is the smallest incident, don’t let it go by, the moment it touched you deep inside only means that it has the capacity to affect you negatively and its time to summon the guardian.

When you are getting yourself initiated in this process you will not know how to pick out this guardian voice simply because the guardian voice and the demonic voice coexist inside of you  and the demonic voice has the capacity to overshadow the guardian voice.  It has a  gentle demeanor, precisely among the reasons most of us do not even hear it.  Learn to hear it, and the more you hear and follow its advice, the more powerful it gets, THE MORE POWERFUL YOU GET. The more powerful you get, the more easily you are able to compartmentalize (among so many other things that you can do with this power within you). You can compartmentalize because this light or voice is all pervading in you.

In the diagram those little boxes are emotions that are only a small part of you but what is all encompassing is the light. The light of wisdom and knowledge. Soon it kicks out those little boxes that hurt you.



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***Look out for Part 2***

About the Author – Rashmi Joshi  aka “Moksha”

Having meandered through life doing what I was ‘SUPPOSED TO’, I finally realized my calling- writing about how to derive those all important lessons that our souls were meant to. Fuelled by the desire to ‘learn as I lived’ had me writing original quotable quotes by grade 8.

I hold a masters degree in Labour Law, an MBA in HR and along side trained in classical singing, which I pursued for 24 years.

I have written a book on Practical Philosophy that helps people learn to live successfully, make wise choices and get rich by earning pearls of wisdom.




Life after the Meltdown – Vijay Nallawala author of “A Bipolar’s Journey”

May 6, 2015  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

I have known Vijay for a few short years now and it has been a pleasure to be a part of his life. I am honoured that he continues to share his journey with me through his writing and I am amazed to see just how aligned out paths are. Meditation is key….. and I totally agree, “Our greatest challenges transform us into who we are meant to be.”



It was the 23rd of May, 2003 when the carpet was pulled from right under my feet. A Psychiatrist pronounced that I had the dreaded mental illness, Bipolar Disorder (a term I had not even heard of until then)! Bipolar is a highly debilitating Mood Disorder with extreme mood swings, supposedly incurable. Hospitalised for a week and in the dumps months afterwards..

It has been eleven years since that day…What has my journey been like? Is it a nightmare that I would best like to forget and wish never happened in my life? On the contrary. I think that it (yes, this might shock you) might have been the best thing to happen to me at that stage.

Our darkest moments make us the strongest.
Until then I had not even imagined the extent of my own powers, and believe me, in order to keep bipolar at bay I needed all of them! For bipolar entailed chronic fatigue, irritability, focusing and memory issues, years of depression, lack of drive and absence of confidence – my cup of sorrow was overflowing.

I shall share in brief how I managed to firstly get out of the emotional, psychological and physical quagmire that I found myself in.

Acceptance was the key to the recovery process.
Denial is the biggest barrier between one struggling and the solution.
Discipline was the next step: like a workhorse, I adopted a new lifestyle that would facilitate recovery- Yoga, exercise, meditation and sensible eating. Of course, along with this I had to scale down my career goals to match my drastically reduced energy levels. Self belief and faith of course, are crucial in any journey as arduous as this and I mustered all that I could pull together.

Anybody who is a Bipolar would readily agree that medication has little impact on our mindset: at the most, meds retain our sanity. In order to regain a semblance of normalcy one has to strive much harder. This is where our ancient practices come in handy. Yoga helped me keep my mind focused and maintain my fitness.

Science now supports the claim that Yoga and Meditation have immense benefits where wellness is concerned. This is especially so in case of mental illnesses where the mind has to brave great distress. I have had the benefit of having learnt meditation from great spiritual Gurus such as Sri Sri Ravi Shankar and the teachers of Siddha Centres of Meditation. Decades of meditative practice helped me continue in the same vein even in times when the mind was in great turmoil.

To be honest, I practiced meditation daily because I simply fell in love with it. The benefits (not that I was aware of any at that time) were the icing on the cake. Recent research has proven that meditation can actually change the brain! I have in recent times become very interested in learning about neuroplasticity, that is the brain’s ability to rewire itself.

This is very exciting for people like me because science also tells us that the prefrontal cortex and amygdala regions of the brains show abnormalities in cases of bipolars. Now, we know that meditation can actually reverse this! Empowering knowledge indeed!

Physiology apart, how did I benefit from meditation? Meditation is the finest way to connect to our subconscious minds and it is also said that the subconscious mind stores much more knowledge and wisdom than our conscious minds cannot even comprehend. I became privy to profound insights about myself and made me a calmer, more compassionate human.

When I now think about spirituality, I think ‘introspection and meditation’. This process of learning, understanding and questioning made me much wiser and broadened my perspective of life. Along with my resilience, my equanimity increased too.

Amid all this, Bipolar now sulks in a corner craving for my attention!

Would all this have been possible without the terror of bipolar in my path?

Our greatest challenges transform us into who we are meant to be.


Vijay Nallawala is an Author, Personal Branding Coach, Blogger and Mental Health Advocate. His first Book, A Bipolar’s Journey- From Torment to Fulfillment is in the final stages of publishing. A deeply spiritual person, he reaches out to the community of Bipolar afflicted around the world through his website and social media. Writing, photography and travel are his passions.

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