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Q & A – “Don’t Think of a Blue Ball” – Ch 2 – Qtn 1

August 12, 2013  |  Book Reviews  |  No Comments

Plugging In Click here WATCH THIS 10 minute video now and learn how to plug in!

Question:

So Malti, I have read and re-read Chapter 2 of “Don’t Think of a Blue Ball” I am trying to practice plugging in and surrendering to the free fall, but do you have any more tips on how I can do this practically?

 

Quote from Chapter 2:

“Having a safety net in place will allow you to give up just before the time you would have succeeded. People have often asked me how I soar higher every time they have seen me almost fall, and I think the only answer is that I have implicit faith in the Universe. I am on the journey and path that is mine. Despite the odds in the eyes of onlookers, I keep at it, working at it, learning and practicing all the time patiently, because there is no safety net and I know that falling is not an option”

 

Author’s comments:

I have a video that I just uploaded to share with you my own personal plugging in method.

More Videos of Plugging in

Link: Videos on Plugging In

I also have older videos on my channel in a playlist called “Plugging In”

I hope these videos answer your question but to add to it, here are some excerpts from my recent posts:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In my “bucket list” of things that I want to do before I die, “sky – diving” is at the top for me, right next to “speaking at a TED conference”. When I think about why I want to deliberately jump off a plane, what comes to mind is the desire to experience a cocktail of feelings including fear mingled with faith and excitement.

Today, as I was about to meditate, all my thoughts were rampant about my work, opportunities, challenges and all that, but in the whirlwind, I caught the feeling of surrender. I realised that I no longer pray for any specific outcome. I noticed that I was actually OK with anything. Has my faith grown or has there finally been enough validation that things are starting to go my way? Classic chicken and egg scenario, but I’m pretty sure it was the faith that came before the results.

“In the old day, I’d have been complaining, chasing , showing some annoyance, or at least begged God with tightly clenched hands to please please please let this or that happen the way I want it to, but now I truly surrendered. I have this sense of free-falling, a knowingness that I am cradled by something and that I had nothing at all to be afraid of, and in fact all I could do, now that I had “jumped-off the plane” already, was to enjoy the glide! 

Trust implicitly, plug in to yourself and surrender! 

I know more than anything in the world, that whatever happens is really and truly for the best, for me! It almost feels like my Universe exists for my good and that anything that even seems like a disappointment, is in fact perfect and allowing for something better to come my way, or maybe saving me from some pain that was going to come my way.

I am learning to live life like as if I am on a roller coaster, one that I went to the park to ride on by choice and waited in line to board, and ensured I put the safety bracket on – enjoying all the thrills with glee, a tinge of fear mingled with excitement and faith that it will all be OK! 

Wanna get on board with me?

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As I was sitting with a client of mine, and he was carefully penning down his specific goals, I had to interject with what I really believe which is inspired by a verse in Chapter 2 of The Bhagwad Gita about detachment to the fruit of our labour.

So as I fumbled to express myself, I came up with this analogy which I really want to share with all of you as it really really drove it home for me. Yes set your goals and be specific about them, this is like entering an exact address into your GPS system, so that you can move forward. Then think about the feelings that the attainment of these goals will give you, not just the measurable outcome. For example, if it is a promotion, then the feelings could be of “respect” and “confidence”, or in an example of a financial goal, the feelings could be “freedom” and “security”. After that, surrender, and trust that what is in store for you is so much more than our limited experience can even imagine.

Is it then a coincidence that the quote action email that I received from a friend yesterday was this one: “If you try too carefully to plan your life, the danger is that you will succeed–succeed in narrowing your options, closing off avenues of adventure that cannot now be imagined.”
American Diplomat, Harlan Cleveland

So let’s just say that the feeling I want to experience or taste is “Sweetness” and I set the goal on a pursuit for peaches, because it is the sweetest fruit that I know existed. I then spend my time and energies working towards finding these peaches. I toil, and work hard, I climb high and seek low, and then I face disappointments after disappointment, but I keep going and I don’t find these peaches. Instead, because I never gave up, I end up in this farm and there I am presented with Alphonso mangoes and this is the sweetest, most exquisite fruit I have ever tasted. The sweetness is beyond imagination!

So, yes write your goals, yes pursue them, connect with the experience and feeling that you feel achieving this goal will give you and then as much as you can, feel that feeling now, where you are and surrender with full faith that whatever is in store for you will be far far sweeter than anything you could have imagined, so don’t be disappointed along the way if things don’t look as you had hoped they would, your path towards the sweet mangoes is just being laid out as you walk towards the peaches.

 

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If you haven’t already done this, I strongly recommend it,

 

“Write it down on a piece of paper ‘I trust the Universe IMPLICITLY, A LL the time’. Stick this on a wall in your room where you will see it every day.”

 

Watch the videos, especially the last one, it took me 10 minutes to record, but I am sure it will give you a lot of support in practicing plugging in!!

 

Lots of love and gratitude,

Malti

An ODE to Don’t Think of a Blue Ball by Malti Bhojwani by Caroline Morgan

August 10, 2013  |  Book Reviews, Uncategorized  |  No Comments

An ODE to Don’t Think of a Blue Ball by Malti Bhojwani by Caroline Morgan

No matter what your latitude,
Malti wants to change your attitude.
You need to show more gratitude –
no matter what life’s shat at youd!
It’s much more than a platitude –
Be grateful for the food you’ve chewed.
Enjoy each cup of tea you’ve brewed.
Forgive your friends when they are rude.
Forget the ball that has been blued,
and If you want a better mood –
Then toss out all the lassitude
And fill your life with gratitude.

Q & A – “Don’t Think of a Blue Ball” – Ch 1 – Qtn 1

August 9, 2013  |  Book Reviews  |  No Comments

I have been receiving countless emails and facebook messages with Questions on how to really practice being able to turn your life around and live the life of your dreams using what I have shared in “Don’t Think of A Blue Ball” So I have decided to post some of these questions here and answer them here as well to support you. I have kept them anonymous and in some cases, I have merged a couple of questions together to address them in the one answer. As they questions are numerous, please bear with me while I work through them and I am planning to address them in Chapter order. 🙂

Chapter 1  Quote: 

“The more I told my collection of ‘sad stories’ and repeated the incidents to the people in my life, the more they perpetuated. I was focusing on all the things that were wrong about my life and how these could not get any worse, but without realizing, it was this thinking that attracted more of the same disappointment.  The more I complained, the more I had to complain about. I sounded like a broken record and had become my own worst companion.

‘I’ was the problem. I was manifesting all the troubles in my life. Does it sound familiar?”

Question:

“But Malti, how do I change my story, how do I stop complaining, I really don’t mean to, but life has been so shitty lately….tight on money, gaining weight, I’m being evicted-they want to increase my rent so I need to move out, I’m owed money that hasn’t come in, I have debts….and it just feels so awful, in fact the only that is working now is my relationship, but I don’t want to lie or fake it, how do I stop complaining when things are just so so hard???” “How Malti?”.

Author’s Comment:

Well…. I KNOW it’s hard, because we are so so used to complaining and repeating the stuff that’s upsetting us and worrying us, but like I mention in Chapter 1, do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? Do what you have always done and you will have the same results, nothing will change! I know it feels so uncomfortable to not worry and complain when things seem so so hard, but before I go on to explain more than this, I want you to TRUST me and believe me, “Nothing is every as hard or as bad as it appears to you!”

Back to the “HOW?”

Initially you will catch yourself and you may have to just sit silent for a few minutes, it will feel very uncomfortable as this is not familiar to those of you who are always rattling to others or even to yourselves all the things that are not right about your life.  From this space of silence, wait and look at something that is good, one area of your life that is going well or one thing to be grateful for and then talk about THAT! Secondly, stop talking so much, I often say to myself, “WAIT!” Why Am I Talking – W.A.I.T? Allow others to share with you a little more, when you truly listen, you will 1) give that person a gift that you probably haven’t given them in a long long time and 2) You will better understand what their needs are and maybe find ways to help them, and thirdly, your issues may not seem so bad anymore!

I know you will say to me, but but but Malti, these are real problems, I have real rent to pay and no money to pay it with, so my questions to you are these:

Haven’t you been in a very similar situation before?

Didn’t you manage somehow to get through it as if by magic?

If that does not build your own faith, then what will?

You will not be faking it or lying, you will be choosing your thoughts and your words carefully. Monitoring that you are not perpetuating the same crap in your life, instead in your case, you could choose to talk about and revel in the love that you are experiencing in your relationship and allow that OPEN valve to embrace you in all the other areas of your life, take the “happiness” from your relationship and pour it over all of you, instead of taking the worry, pain, sadness, fears from all the other areas and clouding the beautiful relationship you are in. I will let you in on a secret, some of the most wealthiest people I know, who I have worked with and they have shared with me, are so miserable and lonely, so unfulfilled and sad because despite having all the money in the world, they don’t have that one person to love and be loved by. So my dear, you are wealthier than most, and when you truly truly start to see that, money too will pour on you. 

With love and gratitude for your trust and openness,

Malti

Jack Canfield,  Ivan Misner Les Hewitt Bob Urichuck

Jack Canfield,
Ivan Misner
Les Hewitt
Bob Urichuck

The Sweetest of Fruits

August 2, 2013  |  Uncategorized  |  1 Comment

As a life coach, I work with people to set goals and then work towards them. I hold them accountable to the strategies and action steps they set out and I cheer them on or support them along the way. It is said that we need to be very specific when writing these goals, in fact SMART even about them. However, if you have read my books and articles you would know that I also believe in surrendering. What is the fine balance between doing and allowing? In “Don’t Think of a Blue Ball” there are paragraphs about it but just yesterday, as I was sitting with a client of mine, and he was carefully penning down his specific goals, I had to interject with what I really believe which is inspired by a verse in Chapter 2 of The Bhagwad Gita about detachment to the fruit of our labour.

 

So as I fumbled to express myself, I came up with this analogy which I really want to share with all of you as it really really drove it home for me. Yes set your goals and be specific about them, this is like entering an exact address into your GPS system, so that you can move forward. Then think about the feelings that the attainment of these goals will give you, not just the measurable outcome. For example, if it is a promotion, then the feelings could be of “respect” and “confidence”, or in an example of a financial goal, the feelings could be “freedom” and “security”. After that, surrender, and trust that what is in store for you is so much more than our limited experience can even imagine.

 

Is it then a coincidence that the quote action email that I received from a friend yesterday was this one: “If you try too carefully to plan your life, the danger is that you will succeed–succeed in narrowing your options, closing off avenues of adventure that cannot now be imagined.”
American Diplomat, Harlan Cleveland

 

So let’s just say that the feeling I want to experience or taste is “Sweetness” and I set the goal on a pursuit for peaches, because it is the sweetest fruit that I know existed. I then spend my time and energies working towards finding these peaches. I toil, and work hard, I climb high and seek low, and then I face disappointments after disappointment, but I keep going and I don’t find these peaches. Instead, because I never gave up, I end up in this farm and there I am presented with Alphonso mangoes and this is the sweetest, most exquisite fruit I have ever tasted. The sweetness is beyond imagination!

 

So, yes write your goals, yet pursue them, connect with the experience and feeling that you feel achieving this goal will give you and then as much as you can, feel that feeling now, where you are and surrender with full faith that whatever is in store for you will be far far sweeter than anything you could have imagined, so don’t be disappointed along the way if things don’t look as you had hoped they were, your path towards the sweet mangoes is just being laid out as you walk it. Malti Bhojwani